How do you feel about going back to the way it was before the pandemic?

If you are like a lot of people, you don’t want to go back to that way of life. Sure, you are looking forward to things opening up, or already enjoying your new freedom in certain parts of our country.

But, what does it look like for you going forward?

What do you want from your life?

Has your experience this last year made you see things differently?

And, how does your job fit into the full picture now? Has that changed? …

This too shall pass…

I call on this slogan a lot. Particularly when I am in a difficult time, feeling that I just can’t go on.

Because really. Everything changes.

Change is happening everywhere in everything right now…

Our human bodies are completely replaced every 7 to 10 years. Your body has changed just in the time you’ve spent reading this. Emotionally and mentally you change every day too. It’s not always linear, these changes. We can progress and regress and progress again.

Change is the only real constant in our lives…

Yet, as humans, we crave sameness. Our bodies…

I bet you can think of a time that you failed…

Maybe a lot of times, if you are like most of us…

Do you ever avoid thinking about it because it makes you feel yucky?

It’s uncomfortable to face our failures, right?

Yet, they are such a part of life that if we avoid processing our failures, we are bound to be carrying a lot of them.

If not dealt with properly, those failures can take a toll on your self-esteem and your future performance…

Recently, I was doing some mindset work and I realized a couple of failures…

Lessons can come from unexpected places…

My little girl Abigail is an interesting mix of Dachshund, Basset Hound, and Spaniel with possibly some Red Heeler from what we can tell. We adopted her after she was found stray in the California desert with a pup.

They didn’t know whether she had just one pup, only being a year old, or if she lost the others. But, she made it through with her boy finding food and water in a harsh environment to keep them both alive. How that young girl even made it, I can only imagine. …

You may be on a team that is new to working virtually. There are many challenges for new virtual teams, like exhaustion from screen time and learning to navigate how to manage people that you can’t see working.

But, one of the biggest struggles I am hearing these days is team members feeling a lack of connection and belonging.

It’s affecting people’s ability to do their work…

We are finding out that company culture is important, maybe more important than we realized. …

Some days feel like one never-ending string of meetings. You already had a lot of meetings but now working virtually, the quantity has increased.​

The amount of screen time is leaving you exhausted and Zoom Fatigued.​

​Staring at a screen for a meeting is tiresome in a way that meeting in person is not. It takes more mental energy to stay engaged on video because we are lacking the body language cues normally present in person…​

It’s hard to tell how people are feeling when they show up postage-stamp-sized on your screen. At times, you can’t even see everyone because…

“Hey honey, how did your guitar lesson go? Did you play the Blind Melon song you’ve been working on?”

That’s all I said. I felt like I have asked similar “How was your day?” questions every day in the last 25 years.

But, that particular day the impact was different because I asked it with curiosity…

An hour later, my husband, Billy said to me, “You asked me 2 questions tonight. You don’t do that very often and it felt really good”.

Curiosity had been on my mind because the day before I was in an hour-long group discussion about…

I’m recovering from one of those colds that take you down for days and gives you time to binge-watch that delightful show you’ve been meaning to get to. This time, my show was Poldark. I love this show for the beautiful photography. After spending a couple of days in magical Cornwall on a wonderful vacation, I watch anything I can find that is set there.

Based in the late 1700s, it is a classic good vs evil story. Ross Poldark is an innovative, good-hearted man whose impulsive nature often gets the best of him. As a landowner, he runs a…

Are you having a hard time focusing at work?

Let me guess, before the pandemic hit you were already stressed at work. You already had too much to do. And, how do you do it all now with even more complexity?

Maybe you feel like you are drowning in meetings with no time for your real work?

​This feeling is common. People have too much to do and too little time to do it. They have tried all the productivity hacks, they’ve even tried hacking their brains to think faster…

​Yes, those things can help.

You wonder why you don’t feel like celebrating.

Instead, you just feel exhausted.

You had some success this week but…

Another week is over and you wonder where all the time went. This month is flying by.

You spent your last 5 days running from meeting to meeting, staying late to get your own work done. Where did all the time go?

It’s overwhelming. Somehow, you ended up doing the lion’s share of the work again. And, you wonder why the others can’t pick up the weight when they don’t have nearly as much on their plate as you. …

Jillian Avey

Marketing executive, leadership coach, meditator and wife.

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